Big feelings can feel too big—especially for little hearts.

A tender, honest children’s book that helps kids (and grown-ups) feel seen, heard, and understood - without shame.

Let’s be honest - big feelings can be overwhelming.

For kids, they might show up as meltdowns. For adults, they often get shoved down and ignored. But pretending emotions aren’t there doesn’t make them go away, it just makes us feel alone.

Here’s what we believe:

Big emotions aren’t something to fix.

They’re something to understand.

Created by someone who’s been there.

Hi, I’m Joy Lanier. I’ve always felt things deeply… sometimes too deeply. One day, while journaling through a tough moment, I wrote a rhyming story that later became

Big Feels: The Diary of a Passionate Kitty.

It’s a book born from therapy, reflection, and a desire to help the little ones in our lives (and the little ones still inside us) feel less alone.

This isn’t just a story. It’s a safe space for all.

Here’s how you can use Big Feels in your home, classroom, or community:

Get the book

Order online or ask your local library to carry it.

Read it aloud

It’s perfect for ages 4–9 (but adults might find themselves tearing up too).

Start the conversation

Use the questions at the end to spark gentle discussions about emotions, identity, and growth.

Imagine a world where…

Kids aren’t afraid of their big feelings
Grown-ups feel more connected to their own emotional lives
Families have real conversations that go beyond “I’m fine.”

This is what Big Feels is about.

Helping humans of all ages make room for their full selves.

The journey behind Big Feels

From a journal entry on a hard day to a beautifully illustrated book, Big Feels was shaped by a team of creatives who believed in the story’s heart. It’s been a journey of trust, feedback, grit, and growth - and it’s only the beginning!

Want to read more about how it came together?

BIG Feels for Grown Ups!

© 2025 Joy Lanier | Big Feels: The Diary of a Passionate Kitty. All rights reserved.